There are moments in this life when we all need to take a step back, take a deep breath and be the calm in the room. There are moments when we all need to stop being offended and taking our frustrations out on others. There are moments when we need to stand down and realize not every moment is a grizzly moment. I get all of this and I have spent my adult years reminding myself of this more than I’d care to admit.
That said, there are also those very pivotal moments when we, as parents, need to stand up, to grizzly up, and to step forward in order to effectively advocate for our children.
My best Conversation to date with a school administrator:
Following a two hour melt down where my son was under the desk screaming and the class had to be evacuated. After two hours of the school floundering as they attempted to resolve the situation, I was called and asked to step in. It took me all of three minutes to do the resolving. After the situation was resolved, the principal asked me back to his office for a chat. It went like this….
“I am concerned that your son’s behaviors are impacting the instructional minutes of our other students in his class and I will not stand for instructional minutes to be sacrificed.”
“I am equally concerned that every time his teacher fails to stand up and manage his behaviors you and she, as a team, sacrifice his ability to be viewed as just another kid in his classroom. Every single time you allow a frustrating moment to deteriorate into a melt down, HIS instructional minutes are not only impacted, but HIS social opportunities with HIS peers are LOST.
You are allowing a teacher’s inability to STEP UP to compromise his ability to simply be seen as a kid, a regular kid, and you are, instead, allowing him to be seen as chaotic and frightening every time she misses the cues because, for some entitled reason, she doesn’t think kids LIKE HIM are HER job.
Every single time she fails to do her job she takes a little piece of his childhood away from him.”
*insert both pin and jaw dropping*
Sparkle On, my friends.